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Ending a career in synchro skating. What next?
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Every year at the end of the season, synchro skaters from all over the world store up their skates... for good! And it's not always easy. (Credits: Ville Vairinen)
Every spring, synchronized skaters worldwide contemplate retiring from the sport—or perhaps returning after a short break! Giving up your competitive career is a huge decision, one that comes with changes to your habits, body, and identity. In this article, one former skater and a sports psychologist discuss what it’s like to leave competitive sports and, for example, when to get help in dealing with it.
Currently, Tessa is preparing for a medical school entrance exam, coaching younger skaters in her former club, skating with other former Marigold skaters in team Exit, and serving as a board member for the Athletes of Finland. She just spent a month coaching in Australia as well.
According to Satu Kaski, PhD, a certified sports psychologist who has been working with synchronized skaters as well, experiencing this longing is normal after finishing competitive sports. It can be either a sign to give it another go or, more likely, simply a feeling you need to accept and process.
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“The other, more usual scenario after finishing your sports career is that it is difficult to get the same type of kick out of anything… That creates the longing, even though rationally, you’ve decided not to return or it’s not possible,” Satu explains. “It’s like its own little society. And yet, it’s just sports. But when you’re in it, it’s everything. It produced massive emotional highs and emotional lows.”
Tessa encourages skaters to continue as long as possible: “Many young skaters retire super early because they feel like they should already be in university or that they’re already X age, and that bums me out. We should learn to see the value in skating and sports, how it teaches you things you cannot learn from school.”
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Despite the benefits of a sports career, there are also things to learn out after it ends, such as focusing on achievement or giving your 100% every day. “My boyfriend once said to me ‘Tessa, have you noticed you have a very performance-oriented self-esteem’. So, I value myself through the things I achieve,” Tessa explains.
“In competitive sports, giving 100% allows you to compete on that level; it takes that much, but nothing else in life is like that. You don’t give 100% at work today and tomorrow the same – of course not. You give 50% and it looks to others like you’re doing 100% all the time, even though you might feel like you didn’t do much,” Satu continues.
Other things will inevitably change as well – for example, the feeling in your body or the meaning of sports in your life. “It’s not rare that sometimes when you quit, you stop sports completely,” Satu starts. According to her, the break can do good for former athletes and help in the process of figuring out how you want to move outside of competing. “The break won’t harm your health.”
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Retiring athletes might require additional support
In addition to talking to friends and family, retiring athletes might require additional structural support. For example, Tessa is in the board of the Marigold alumni association, and they’re currently working on assigning each retiring skater an alumnus as a support person.
In the club Satu works in, exit interviews are arranged for retiring skaters: “It’s just one, but there you go through how the career was, what did you get out of it, what do you see in front of you now… With small things, you can make a big impact. It’s for athletes to know they’re important and cared for.”
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And remember, when it does, there is life after: “When I was crying about retiring, my dad said ‘Tessa, remember there is life outside the rink, you just don’t know it yet’. And that is true,” Tessa remembers. “I know that I have a lot to give to the new generation of skaters as well – and that’s a lovely thought.”
2. Give it time. Do not ignore any feelings. When they come, face them, and move on.
3. Try to talk to someone. Don’t keep to yourself.
2. Prepare for what comes after the career. When your competitive career ends, what do you want written in the ‘tombstone of your career’? You can control where you are now.
3. Remember that your sports career is not only about medals or learned skills. You usually get a lot of valuable capital out of it. Think about what that is for you.